Do you like ice cream?
I know, that was a silly question because everyone likes ice cream. One of the things we love about it are all the different flavors there are to choose from. Whatever kind of person you are, sweet or savory, there is a flavor for you.
In dating, like ice cream, there is an abundance of choices available to you. (Do you have an abundance mindset?)
Now watch this video and talk amongst yourselves in the comments below.
Do you like ice cream?
I know, that was a silly question because everyone likes ice cream. One of the things we love about it are all the different flavors there are to choose from. Whatever kind of person you are, sweet or savory, there is a flavor for you.
In dating, like ice cream, there is an abundance of choices available to you. (Do you have an abundance mindset?)
Now watch this video and talk amongst yourselves in the comments below.
Happy Friday everybody, Shogo here with another weekend blog!
So let’s talk about dates and dating this Friday. I’m sure a few of you have a an exciting date, a hookup, a potential partner, an online date–somebody–that you’re going to meet up and hang out with this weekend. You may be nervous and wanting to make a good first impression, you may really be hoping you’re going to get laid, you might just be going through the motions and waiting for your date to make the first move.
Whatever ends up going through your head this weekend, one of the biggest stumbling blocks when you’re out with a new person you barely know is running out of things to talk about. Even worse if you’re the type of person who runs out of things to talk about so consistently on your past dates that you already fear it’s going to happen on your next date!
Now I’m not talking about having a moment of silence, looking at your date, and understanding how to enjoy that silence. What I mean is when you go on a date with a new person, talk about some boring topic neither of you really cares about for 30 minutes, then, almost like clockwork, you have no idea what to talk about or what to do after that boring 30 minute discussion.
Nobody enjoys a night of sitting across from somebody, staring at their food thinking, “Oh my god, what can I talk about? Is she bored right now? Does she think I’m a boring person? Is this a really awkward date?” Before you know it, you’re in your head the whole night and this date ends up being just another one to chuck onto your pile of uninspired mediocre first dates. That’s a surefire date-killer, a surefire way to go home alone, and a surefire way to not get that second date.
"Does she think I'm boring?"
So what is it that’s causing this? Are you a boring person? Is it just really difficult for a guy like you to have chemistry with many different women? Are you doomed to go on tons and tons of dead-end dates until you finally find that one (out of 100 maybe) who you finally have some sort of a connection and some fun with?
I don’t really believe in boring people. If you’re reading this, to me you’re an interesting person. I really believe that. But you have to believe it also, because if deep down inside you think that you’re just another boring guy, then that’s exactly what you’re going to project for as long as you continue to believe it about yourself.
While I don’t believe in boring people, I do believe in boring lives. I guarantee there are a lot of guys reading right now, when you look and reflect back at what your week looks like, what your 2012 has looked like up until now, what your 2011 looked like last year, you will see a whole lot of dullness, mediocrity, and forgettable moments. And it’s not because you are dull or mediocre. It’s because of what you’ve chosen to fill your life with every single day.
If you’re consistently running out of things to talk about on your dates, if you’re having a hard time connecting with a woman who you actually really like and you want to see again, it’s not because of who you are as a person, it’s because of what you do with your time, what you think about, and what you experience every single day.
Every time you go out on a date, every time you try to connect with a woman, all you can bring with you is what you have experienced up until this point and what you experience in your daily life. If you live a life that you’d rather not remember, if you think thoughts that you’d rather not share, if you look back and think, “God, what a boring month I had,” the only thing you’re going to deliver to the woman sitting across from you is the energy of a lifestyle you’d rather not share.
If you can’t enjoy your week all by yourself in whatever you do, you’re bringing to the table a guy who doesn’t know how to enjoy himself in the things he does and the people he’s with. If you’re not inspired by your own life every day leading up to this Friday night, what makes you think you’re suddenly going to be able to flip the switch and make this Friday night any more inspiring?
But if you are engaged in the things you do, guess what? You’re going to be engaging to the woman who you’ve brought on this date with you.
So you can sit around and wait for that one out of 100 women who you finally connect with, or you can do something about your lifestyle, start making some changes, and start connecting with women everywhere. So tonight before you go out, I want you to do yourself a favor and sit for a while in a quiet place. Maybe turn off the radio on your 30 minute commute home, maybe crack a beer and sit quietly on the couch, sit still and meditate, get in the zone on the treadmill at the gym, just do something to give your mind a little rest.
Think about the way you live your life right now and how you feel about your connection to the world around you. Are you perfectly content? Are you bored? Do you see yourself as a boring person? Would somebody else think that your life is interesting?
Now envision the way that you would like your life to be. What kinds of changes could you make to start moving in that direction? What are some things you’ve thought about doing but have just never gotten around to? What new things would you learn about? Have you always wanted to sky dive? Would you pick up a cooking class or learn some new recipes? Would you cut out a day of lifting weights and pick up some yoga? Would you travel to South America for a week instead of another shitty trip to Vegas? Would you watch less How I Met Your Mother reruns and go to read the new releases at Borders?
Write down three new things that you would enjoy seeing in your lifestyle. Put yourself out there so that others can see and write them in the comments section. Because you can talk about it all day long, but the key is that you have to start doing it. So pick the most important one, the one that jumps out at you the most, AND START DOING IT. Even if it’s something as simple as trying out one new restaurant a week instead of getting takeout 3 times a week.
You can’t just read a blog post, learn some pickup line, or post your dating questions on the internet. You have to make that commitment when you wake up that day and actually add something new and inspiring to your life.
Happy Friday everybody, Shogo here with another weekend blog!
So let’s talk about dates and dating this Friday. I’m sure a few of you have a an exciting date, a hookup, a potential partner, an online date–somebody–that you’re going to meet up and hang out with this weekend. You may be nervous and wanting to make a good first impression, you may really be hoping you’re going to get laid, you might just be going through the motions and waiting for your date to make the first move.
Whatever ends up going through your head this weekend, one of the biggest stumbling blocks when you’re out with a new person you barely know is running out of things to talk about. Even worse if you’re the type of person who runs out of things to talk about so consistently on your past dates that you already fear it’s going to happen on your next date!
Now I’m not talking about having a moment of silence, looking at your date, and understanding how to enjoy that silence. What I mean is when you go on a date with a new person, talk about some boring topic neither of you really cares about for 30 minutes, then, almost like clockwork, you have no idea what to talk about or what to do after that boring 30 minute discussion.
Nobody enjoys a night of sitting across from somebody, staring at their food thinking, “Oh my god, what can I talk about? Is she bored right now? Does she think I’m a boring person? Is this a really awkward date?” Before you know it, you’re in your head the whole night and this date ends up being just another one to chuck onto your pile of uninspired mediocre first dates. That’s a surefire date-killer, a surefire way to go home alone, and a surefire way to not get that second date.
"Does she think I'm boring?"
So what is it that’s causing this? Are you a boring person? Is it just really difficult for a guy like you to have chemistry with many different women? Are you doomed to go on tons and tons of dead-end dates until you finally find that one (out of 100 maybe) who you finally have some sort of a connection and some fun with?
I don’t really believe in boring people. If you’re reading this, to me you’re an interesting person. I really believe that. But you have to believe it also, because if deep down inside you think that you’re just another boring guy, then that’s exactly what you’re going to project for as long as you continue to believe it about yourself.
While I don’t believe in boring people, I do believe in boring lives. I guarantee there are a lot of guys reading right now, when you look and reflect back at what your week looks like, what your 2012 has looked like up until now, what your 2011 looked like last year, you will see a whole lot of dullness, mediocrity, and forgettable moments. And it’s not because you are dull or mediocre. It’s because of what you’ve chosen to fill your life with every single day.
If you’re consistently running out of things to talk about on your dates, if you’re having a hard time connecting with a woman who you actually really like and you want to see again, it’s not because of who you are as a person, it’s because of what you do with your time, what you think about, and what you experience every single day.
Every time you go out on a date, every time you try to connect with a woman, all you can bring with you is what you have experienced up until this point and what you experience in your daily life. If you live a life that you’d rather not remember, if you think thoughts that you’d rather not share, if you look back and think, “God, what a boring month I had,” the only thing you’re going to deliver to the woman sitting across from you is the energy of a lifestyle you’d rather not share.
If you can’t enjoy your week all by yourself in whatever you do, you’re bringing to the table a guy who doesn’t know how to enjoy himself in the things he does and the people he’s with. If you’re not inspired by your own life every day leading up to this Friday night, what makes you think you’re suddenly going to be able to flip the switch and make this Friday night any more inspiring?
But if you are engaged in the things you do, guess what? You’re going to be engaging to the woman who you’ve brought on this date with you.
So you can sit around and wait for that one out of 100 women who you finally connect with, or you can do something about your lifestyle, start making some changes, and start connecting with women everywhere. So tonight before you go out, I want you to do yourself a favor and sit for a while in a quiet place. Maybe turn off the radio on your 30 minute commute home, maybe crack a beer and sit quietly on the couch, sit still and meditate, get in the zone on the treadmill at the gym, just do something to give your mind a little rest.
Think about the way you live your life right now and how you feel about your connection to the world around you. Are you perfectly content? Are you bored? Do you see yourself as a boring person? Would somebody else think that your life is interesting?
Now envision the way that you would like your life to be. What kinds of changes could you make to start moving in that direction? What are some things you’ve thought about doing but have just never gotten around to? What new things would you learn about? Have you always wanted to sky dive? Would you pick up a cooking class or learn some new recipes? Would you cut out a day of lifting weights and pick up some yoga? Would you travel to South America for a week instead of another shitty trip to Vegas? Would you watch less How I Met Your Mother reruns and go to read the new releases at Borders?
Write down three new things that you would enjoy seeing in your lifestyle. Put yourself out there so that others can see and write them in the comments section. Because you can talk about it all day long, but the key is that you have to start doing it. So pick the most important one, the one that jumps out at you the most, AND START DOING IT. Even if it’s something as simple as trying out one new restaurant a week instead of getting takeout 3 times a week.
You can’t just read a blog post, learn some pickup line, or post your dating questions on the internet. You have to make that commitment when you wake up that day and actually add something new and inspiring to your life.
“Hello darkness my old friend / I’ve come to…”
Okay, I don’t know if those are the lyrics at all, but I know that it’s all about the sound of silence.
For so many of you, when you’re out on a date or in a new relationship, the sound of silence really bothers you. But in reality, there never really is any silence. You can be standing there looking out at the water on a date, listening to the ocean, and feeling the need to talk, but in reality what’s the issue? If you just stood there and looked into the water together you’re forming a memory, you’re forming a union, and you’re both enjoying nature.
There are so many beautiful sounds that are around you at all times, there’s never really complete silence.
Don’t be afraid of the silence. Enjoy it. And after sitting next to your date in “silence” for 20 minutes, listening to the ocean, look at her and say, “God, that was amazing. I love listening to the ocean; it’s such an amazing, rhythmic, incredible sound.” You can share silence together; you don’t have to be afraid of it.
It’s amazing how we always feel the need to talk, or to fill the airspace with words, or thoughts, or anything. But through silence we actually get deeper in touch with our emotions and we connect back to the Mother Earth; we connect back to the way things really are.
I’m writing this as I’m sitting on Miami Beach listening to the water, listening to the birds, watching the people leave the beach, watching the sun get lower into the sky, checking out the art deco buildings, looking at the way that these lifeguard stands are painted, and just listening to the water and to the sound of the ocean.
It’s that easy. Get peaceful. Learn to enjoy the silence.
Life is all about repetition. It’s about becoming great at something through repetition.
So it’s the middle of the week. I love the middle of the week because it gives us an opportunity to look at the first couple days and see what we can do better, then go and kick ass for the rest of the week.
There were some of the best play off games ever this past Sunday. What kind of chatter do you think is going through Billy Cundiff’s head? You guys think you have issues. You look at a woman and you can’t walk up to her. Imagine right now being Bill Cundiff of the Baltimore Ravens and hooking a 30 yard field goal and giving the Patriots the Super Bowl. Imagine being Lee Evans and dropping a sure-fire touchdown pass, directly in your hands. Dropping the ball to the ground because you weren’t focused in the end zone. Imagine being him.
What do you think the is the monkey chatter he’s got going on in his head?
Now I want to fast forward to your life. Life is about repetition and believing in yourself. Here’s the deal guys: you’re not playing in front of 70,000 people. There are not 70,000 fans whose heart you might be breaking when you drop a pass or hook a field goal.
Let’s put it in pick up terms: when you approach a woman and you hook your words and you don’t go anywhere with them. The reason why you’re hooking your words, the reason why you’re dropping the easy ones, is because you’re not going out and doing the work every single day. In order to become amazing at meeting women, you need to go out every single day.
It’s hump day fellas. Set an intent. Set a goal. Write down: I’m going to approach 15 women per day for the next seven days. I guarantee you that if you do that and you check back the following week, things are going to be a lot better for you.
Life is about repetition, and in order to become good at something, you’ve got to practice, practice, practice. So get out there and practice.
. . .
PS. Don’t look at practice the way Allen Iverson does.
PSS. All jokes aside, do you go out there and play every ‘game’ like it’s your last? Food for thought…
Life is all about repetition. It’s about becoming great at something through repetition.
So it’s the middle of the week. I love the middle of the week because it gives us an opportunity to look at the first couple days and see what we can do better, then go and kick ass for the rest of the week.
There were some of the best play off games ever this past Sunday. What kind of chatter do you think is going through Billy Cundiff’s head? You guys think you have issues. You look at a woman and you can’t walk up to her. Imagine right now being Bill Cundiff of the Baltimore Ravens and hooking a 30 yard field goal and giving the Patriots the Super Bowl. Imagine being Lee Evans and dropping a sure-fire touchdown pass, directly in your hands. Dropping the ball to the ground because you weren’t focused in the end zone. Imagine being him.
What do you think the is the monkey chatter he’s got going on in his head?
Now I want to fast forward to your life. Life is about repetition and believing in yourself. Here’s the deal guys: you’re not playing in front of 70,000 people. There are not 70,000 fans whose heart you might be breaking when you drop a pass or hook a field goal.
Let’s put it in pick up terms: when you approach a woman and you hook your words and you don’t go anywhere with them. The reason why you’re hooking your words, the reason why you’re dropping the easy ones, is because you’re not going out and doing the work every single day. In order to become amazing at meeting women, you need to go out every single day.
It’s hump day fellas. Set an intent. Set a goal. Write down: I’m going to approach 15 women per day for the next seven days. I guarantee you that if you do that and you check back the following week, things are going to be a lot better for you.
Life is about repetition, and in order to become good at something, you’ve got to practice, practice, practice. So get out there and practice.
. . .
PS. Don’t look at practice the way Allen Iverson does.
PSS. All jokes aside, do you go out there and play every ‘game’ like it’s your last? Food for thought…
Life is all about repetition. It’s about becoming great at something through repetition.
So it’s the middle of the week. I love the middle of the week because it gives us an opportunity to look at the first couple days and see what we can do better, then go and kick ass for the rest of the week.
There were some of the best play off games ever this past Sunday. What kind of chatter do you think is going through Billy Cundiff’s head? You guys think you have issues. You look at a woman and you can’t walk up to her. Imagine right now being Bill Cundiff of the Baltimore Ravens and hooking a 30 yard field goal and giving the Patriots the Super Bowl. Imagine being Lee Evans and dropping a sure-fire touchdown pass, directly in your hands. Dropping the ball to the ground because you weren’t focused in the end zone. Imagine being him.
What do you think the is the monkey chatter he’s got going on in his head?
Now I want to fast forward to your life. Life is about repetition and believing in yourself. Here’s the deal guys: you’re not playing in front of 70,000 people. There are not 70,000 fans whose heart you might be breaking when you drop a pass or hook a field goal.
Let’s put it in pick up terms: when you approach a woman and you hook your words and you don’t go anywhere with them. The reason why you’re hooking your words, the reason why you’re dropping the easy ones, is because you’re not going out and doing the work every single day. In order to become amazing at meeting women, you need to go out every single day.
It’s hump day fellas. Set an intent. Set a goal. Write down: I’m going to approach 15 women per day for the next seven days. I guarantee you that if you do that and you check back the following week, things are going to be a lot better for you.
Life is about repetition, and in order to become good at something, you’ve got to practice, practice, practice. So get out there and practice.
. . .
PS. Don’t look at practice the way Allen Iverson does.
PSS. All jokes aside, do you go out there and play every ‘game’ like it’s your last? Food for thought…
Life is all about repetition. It’s about becoming great at something through repetition.
So it’s the middle of the week. I love the middle of the week because it gives us an opportunity to look at the first couple days and see what we can do better, then go and kick ass for the rest of the week.
There were some of the best play off games ever this past Sunday. What kind of chatter do you think is going through Billy Cundiff’s head? You guys think you have issues. You look at a woman and you can’t walk up to her. Imagine right now being Bill Cundiff of the Baltimore Ravens and hooking a 30 yard field goal and giving the Patriots the Super Bowl. Imagine being Lee Evans and dropping a sure-fire touchdown pass, directly in your hands. Dropping the ball to the ground because you weren’t focused in the end zone. Imagine being him.
What do you think the is the monkey chatter he’s got going on in his head?
Now I want to fast forward to your life. Life is about repetition and believing in yourself. Here’s the deal guys: you’re not playing in front of 70,000 people. There are not 70,000 fans whose heart you might be breaking when you drop a pass or hook a field goal.
Let’s put it in pick up terms: when you approach a woman and you hook your words and you don’t go anywhere with them. The reason why you’re hooking your words, the reason why you’re dropping the easy ones, is because you’re not going out and doing the work every single day. In order to become amazing at meeting women, you need to go out every single day.
It’s hump day fellas. Set an intent. Set a goal. Write down: I’m going to approach 15 women per day for the next seven days. I guarantee you that if you do that and you check back the following week, things are going to be a lot better for you.
Life is about repetition, and in order to become good at something, you’ve got to practice, practice, practice. So get out there and practice.
. . .
PS. Don’t look at practice the way Allen Iverson does.
PSS. All jokes aside, do you go out there and play every ‘game’ like it’s your last? Food for thought…
Life is all about repetition. It’s about becoming great at something through repetition.
So it’s the middle of the week. I love the middle of the week because it gives us an opportunity to look at the first couple days and see what we can do better, then go and kick ass for the rest of the week.
There were some of the best play off games ever this past Sunday. What kind of chatter do you think is going through Billy Cundiff’s head? You guys think you have issues. You look at a woman and you can’t walk up to her. Imagine right now being Bill Cundiff of the Baltimore Ravens and hooking a 30 yard field goal and giving the Patriots the Super Bowl. Imagine being Lee Evans and dropping a sure-fire touchdown pass, directly in your hands. Dropping the ball to the ground because you weren’t focused in the end zone. Imagine being him.
What do you think the is the monkey chatter he’s got going on in his head?
Now I want to fast forward to your life. Life is about repetition and believing in yourself. Here’s the deal guys: you’re not playing in front of 70,000 people. There are not 70,000 fans whose heart you might be breaking when you drop a pass or hook a field goal.
Let’s put it in pick up terms: when you approach a woman and you hook your words and you don’t go anywhere with them. The reason why you’re hooking your words, the reason why you’re dropping the easy ones, is because you’re not going out and doing the work every single day. In order to become amazing at meeting women, you need to go out every single day.
It’s hump day fellas. Set an intent. Set a goal. Write down: I’m going to approach 15 women per day for the next seven days. I guarantee you that if you do that and you check back the following week, things are going to be a lot better for you.
Life is about repetition, and in order to become good at something, you’ve got to practice, practice, practice. So get out there and practice.
. . .
PS. Don’t look at practice the way Allen Iverson does.
PSS. All jokes aside, do you go out there and play every ‘game’ like it’s your last? Food for thought…